Cooking up some Friendships

I've decided to take on two new projects. First is this blog.  I feel it will really help me sort out my life, that is the hope anyway.  The second project is learning to cook WELL.  I can cook.  I can follow instructions, but I want to REALLY cook.  I want to know all the cooking jargon. I want to be that woman who cooks these amazing and creative dishes. When people come over, I want them to know that they will be getting an extraordinary meal.   They will come to me for cooking advice or recipes, and I'll always be the first invited to all the potlucks.  I've never had this desire before, but last night it hit me in the shower.  This is what I can contribute.  I've started to realize that for people to truly want to be your friend, you've got to contribute SOMETHING to the relationship.  With men, it's easy, sex.  But what about in female relationships?

Let me back up here, and give you a little background on myself.  I have always been a man's woman.  I hung out with men growing up, and always only had a few girlfriends.  And usually they were more like allies to help me get more men. I was boy-crazy to say the least.  I was a master at the art of seduction.  I could get any man I wanted, and I never really had my heart broken. Relationships with men were always easy for me. It was relationships with women where I always had a problem.   I just don't get it.  After I met my husband, I never really looked at another man.  He was it.  But now I was forced to figure out how to befriend women.  For me this was easier said than done.  It wasn't until I was pregnant with my daughter that I really began to form relationships with other women.  My daughter is 13 months old now, and maintaining and forming new relationships with women is still an uphill battle for me.

Like I was saying, I've begun to think that I'm not contributing to these friendships.  What can people come to me for that they can't go to another friend for? I don't give the best advice, my phone conversations leave something lacking, and I'm really just not that good at any one thing. What can I give?  Well, I'm a small business owner, I eat organic, and I love confrontations. Oh, and I love to dance.  OK, those aren't going to help me strengthen my friendships in any way that I can fathom at this point in my life.  Then I thought about cooking.  Cooking is something I have to do anyway, everyday, and everyone loves a good meal. Well, I guess unless your anorexic or something.  If I could cook really well, than this is what I could give.  I could host dinners, bring food to friends who need the help, and always be able to make the best play date snacks.  I would be the chef of the group, I would finally have a place. I will keep you posted.

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